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Boycott of the Archbishop's Annual Catholic Appeal In Good Conscience . . . I can no longer continue to be a silent witness to the neglect and abuse that my lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) brothers and sisters and their families have been suffering at the hands of the Catholic Church in general, and in this archdiocese in particular. The Church is a place where everyone should feel welcome and where all should experience the unconditional love of God -- where all should be treated as equals. Instead, my LGBT sisters and brothers and their families have been subjected to unjust discriminatory treatment that lacks true compassion since it denies the validity of their relationships, life-experiences, faith journeys, and special needs and gifts and goes contrary to the findings of modern science. Until this Archdiocese begins to provide truly competent and compassionate pastoral ministry to God's LGBT people and to their families--and not simply the grossly demeaning and sorely inadequate treatment offered by Faith In Action programs (Courage/Encourage), I will withhold (all / a portion) of my financial contribution to this year's Archbishop's Annual Catholic Appeal, in the amount of $ _________________ . Instead, I am giving these funds to another non-profit social justice organization that recognizes and/or provides pastoral ministry or other social services that show a competent and compassionate regard for the special gifts and needs of LGBT persons and their families, or to an organization that advocates for social justice for LGBT persons and their families. Identifying Information Optional but Recommended Name _______________________________________________________________ Address _____________________________________________________________ Phone ______________________ Email __________________________________ "Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me." (Matthew 25: 40) "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. . . . In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." (Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. ) |
List of Suggested Organizations for Funds Withheld
from Archbishop's Annual Appeal
Catholic-Oriented LGBT-Related Organizations
CPCSM, The Progressive Catholic Voice, or Catholic Rainbow Parents
(To send a check to any of these organizations, make the check payable to:
CPCSM and indicate which group the money is intended for on the memo line on the check.)
The House of the Beloved Disciple
2930 13th Ave. So.
Minneapolis, MN 55407
Phone: 612-201-4534
Email: cpcsmmail@gmail.com
Other LGBT-Related Organizations
The following is a list of local non-profit organizations, which are welcoming and affirming of LGBT persons and are not part of the Archdiocese; and the list may include organization(s) to which you might wish to redirect the funds you are withholding from the Archbishop's Annual Catholic Appeal.
Faith, Families, Fairness Alliance
(an interfaith alliance)PFLAG, St.Paul-Minneapolis Chapter
Project Offstreets
Quatrefoil LibrarySafe Zone for Homeless, Runaway, At-Risk Youth
(Face-to-Face Health and Counseling Service, St. Paul, MN)
David J. McCaffrey is a founding member of The Progressive Catholic Voice and a cofounder of CPCSM.
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The Myth of 'Conversion Therapy' and the Pseudo-Science of NARTH
PART I – DEBUNKING NARTH
By Michael Bayly
(From The Progressive Catholic Voice, February 2008)
In this first of two articles, CPCSM executive coordinator Michael Bayly highlights the insights and information presented by John C. Gonsiorek, PhD1 (1) during his January 29 presentation at the House of the Beloved Disciple.
INTRODUCTION
On January 29, 2008, the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities (CPCSM) sponsored an educational program entitled, “The Myth of ‘Conversion Therapy’ and the Pseudo Science of NARTH.”
Held in Minneapolis at the House of the Beloved Disciple, this program featured two local licensed psychologists, Jeffry G. Ford (2) and John C. Gonsiorek, who shared their perspective on the National Association for Research and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH) and the theory and practice of “reparative” or “conversion” therapy, advocated by NARTH and other so-called ex-gay ministries and organizations.
These ex-gay groups are adamant that homosexuality is preventable in childhood and treatable in adulthood, and that most gays and lesbians can successfully convert to heterosexuality through what they label “reparative therapy” or “conversion therapy.”
The program was prompted by recent efforts on the part of the Archdiocese to promote NARTH as a credible scientific organization. For instance, in the November 8 issue of The Catholic Spirit (the official newspaper of the Archdiocese of St. Paul/Minneapolis), Fr. Jim Livingston (3) endorsed NARTH by citing the organization as a useful resource and by encouraging people to visit its website so as “to learn . . .about the emotional root causes of homosexuality.”
Fr. Livingston also recommended an audio CD of a talk given by NARTH co-founder Joseph Nicolosi, an individual whom Coadjutor Archbishop Nienstedt, when he was a bishop in Detroit, invited to speak to the priests of the archdiocese as an “expert” on homosexuality.
Many Catholics are concerned by the local Archdiocese’s increasing reliance on the perspective and “findings” of NARTH to support and validate Church teaching on homosexuality.
A “fraudulent healthcare system”
Dr. Gonsiorek began his presentation with words of advice for Catholics troubled by the Archdiocese’s efforts to present NARTH as a legitimate scientific organization and to use its “findings” to validate Church teaching on the “disordered” nature of homosexuality.
“If you’re going to challenge the Archdiocese in its attempts to introduce what I consider to be a ‘fraudulent healthcare service,’” said Gonsiorek, “then you need to become educated about what the behavioral sciences say about sexual orientation. That has to be the base from which you operate as opposed to reacting to the ‘flakiness’ of organizations like NARTH.”
For the most up-to-date information regarding sexual orientation, Gonsiorek recommends the website of the American Psychological Association, and in particular, this site’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Concerns page, its Guidelines for Psychotherapy with Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients, and its Division 44, also known as the Society for the Psychological Study of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Issues.
The Origins of NARTH
Dr. Gonsiorek then proceeded to provide some insightful background information on the origins of NARTH – origins inseparable from the wider cultural debate on homosexuality and, specifically, the American Psychiatric Association's 1973 decision to remove homosexuality from its official manual that lists mental and emotional disorders (followed two years later by the passage of a similar resolution of the American Psychological Association).
This change in the diagnosis of homosexuality was the result of the wealth of research data gathered since the early 1950s that showed no difference between homosexual and heterosexual populations in terms of “adjustment.”
Gonsiorek also noted that a significant “sea change” took place in the early 1970s when biological psychiatry began taking over the field of behavioral science from the psychoanalytical establishment. Indeed, the change in the diagnosis of homosexuality, says Gonsiorek, was “essentially a run-up of a long-standing fight” between these two groups, and was an important moment for the biological psychiatrists, “not only because they had a strong data base to support such a change, but because the psychoanalysts had always considered human sexuality to be their domain.”
In time, the psychoanalytical establishment also changed in its understanding of homosexuality; it now has the same sets of policies and principles about sexual orientation as the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association. Yet there were “old guard” psychoanalysts who were disgruntled about being displaced and seeing their organization change its views on homosexuality. This disaffected group of psychoanalysts formed an alliance with conservatively- and religiously-oriented psychotherapists. It was from this alliance that NARTH was established.
The problem with “conversion therapy”
Gonsiorek then outlined the problem with “conversion” or “reparative” therapy, the theory and practice that treats homosexuality as a pathology, as a disorder that can be “repaired” and changed.
“It’s nonsensical to have a treatment for a diagnosis that doesn’t exist,” says Gonsiorek. “With homosexuality being de-pathologized in 1973, what exactly is being treated? There is no data to support that sexual orientation can be changed and there’s no reason to change it; there’s no impairment.”
So why do people subject themselves to such a “nonsensical” treatment? Gonsiorek notes that there can be a “a great deal of coercion, a great deal of social pressure in some families and communities for those struggling with homosexual feelings to submit to conversion therapy. If they don’t, they’ll be socially ostracized.
Some ex-gay therapists insist that in recommending and/or offering conversion or reparative therapy they are merely giving people a choice as consumers to meet their personal health goals. This argument, says Gonsiorek is “specious and borders on malpractice.” Healthcare providers, he insists, “should not just do what consumers want but offer services that are based on established standards of care. And if the consumer wants something that is flakey, the answer is ‘No.’ To give them what’s flakey is malpractice.”
Gonsiorek also noted an “obvious sexism associated with the ex-gay movement.” “Most of the change efforts are focused on men,” he says. “Women are not so important to the ex-gay ministers and therapists.”
And there is yet another aspect of sexism reflected by this movement: If women marry supposedly ex-gay men and the marriage fails, it’s these women and any children produced by the marriage that suffer. “There’s a lot of this type of ‘collateral damage,’” says Gonsiorek, “but it’s rarely talked about by NARTH and the wider ex-gay establishment.”
Gonsiorek also observed that: “This whole discussion on reparative therapy is occurring in a socio-political context in which it’s becoming standard practice for both corporations and right-wing religious organizations to heavily fund institutes and think-tanks, and to purchase the science they want.”
“We saw this very dramatically with the tobacco company lawsuits, where the tobacco companies, for decades, bought their own science to support their positions,” he said. Yet despite the pseudo-science being exposed in such cases, “the funding by right-wing organizations within the scientific community and within church organizations [remains] big business,” notes Gonsiorek.
“It’s understandable,” says Gonsiorek, “that the lay public can become confused when every behavioral health organization does not support reparative therapy, and yet there are these official-sounding organizations, endorsed by people like archbishops, that make the argument that they are just one more credible voice among many.”
At one point during his presentation, Gonsiorek was asked: “How do the people involved with groups like NARTH respond to the reality that every major professional organization in the behavioral sciences disagrees with them?”
Gonsiorek noted that they often attempt to “re-pathologize” homosexuality by making the following argument: Because certain subsets of the lesbian and gay population have higher rates of certain problems, it must mean there’s inherent pathology.
In response to this ploy, Gonsiorek notes that: “In reality, every group that is treated as second class has higher rates of both mental and physical health problems. If you treat people badly, they get messed up. You don’t need a PhD to figure that out. Yet we don’t say that women are inherently pathological because they have a higher rate of depression and eating disorders. Neither do we say that Native Americans are inherently pathological because they have higher rates of alcoholism.”
The “real issue,” says Gonsiorek, “is that if you can find anyone at all in the given population who is not pathological, then that disproves that the group is pathological. If you have a 20 percent higher base rate of a particular problem within a population, and if there are people within that population for whom that particular problem is not an issue, than it’s clear that something else is going on other than inherent pathology.”
Exploring the issue further, Gonsiorek noted that: “What often happens with people who are maneuvered into reparative therapy is that they’ve been trashed for years by churches and communities – even by their own families. As a result, they’re often depressed and anxious. That’s what the problem is, and that’s what requires treatment. So the reparative therapy is often done instead of what needs to be done – which is to undo the damage caused by harassment, ostracism, and disparagement.”
Gonsiorek concluded his talk by noting that “both the behavioral sciences and religion attempt to understand the human condition and to respond to problems within the human condition.” Yet he was adamant that science and religion are “not the same, and that one cannot speak for the other.”
“For a church leader to tell you what is good behavioral science,” he said, “carries about as much weight as your Uncle Joe telling you.”
Reflecting on the current situation in the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis, Gonsiorek said: “As a psychologist, I find it almost fraudulent for someone who claims to be a moral authority to be grandly operating in an area in which they have no competence.”
In the March issue of The Progressive Catholic Voice, Michael Bayly will share highlights from Jeffrey Ford’s (3) contribution to CPCSM’s program, “The Myth of ‘Conversion Therapy’ and the Pseudo-Science of NARTH.”
1. John C. Gonsiorek, PhD, is a fellow of American Psychological Association (APA) Division 9 (also called the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues), and Division 12 (the Society of Clinical Psychology).
John is also a Clinical Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Minnesota, and a Past-President of APA Division 44 – also known as the Society for the Psychological Study of Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Issues. For 25 years, he had an independent practice of clinical and forensic psychology in Minneapolis.
John has published widely in the areas of professional misconduct, sexual orientation and identity, and professional ethics. For many years, he provided expert witness evaluation and testimony regarding impaired clergy and professionals, standards of care, and psychological damages. He has also provided training and consultation to a variety of religious denominations and organizations.
A consulting editor for the APA journal, Professional Psychology: Research & Practice, John is also the author of a number of publications, including: Breach of Trust: Sexual Exploitation by Health Care Professionals and Clergy, Homosexuality: Research Implications for Public Policy (with Weinrich); Male Sexual Abuse: A Trilogy of Intervention Strategies (with Bera and Letourneau), and Homosexuality and Psycohtherapy: A Practitioner’s Handbook of Affirmative Models.
2. Jeffry G. Ford, MA, is a licensed psychologist and psychotherapist. Interestingly, Jeff was formerly the executive director of OUTPOST, an “ex-gay” ministry located in Minneapolis. For ten years, Jeff claimed to be a “former homosexual,” and was a national speaker for Exodus International, the governing board and communication hub for most ex-gay ministries. Today, however, Jeff identifies as a gay man and is a nationally known consultant and speaker on gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender issues. He specializes in addressing the complexities involved with the anti-gay theory known both as “reparative therapy” and “sexual conversion therapy,” which purports to prevent and cure homosexuality. Jeff dedicates his time and energy to challenging the unethical and dangerous use of pseudo-scientific theories associated with the ex-gay movement, a movement that includes NARTH.
3. Fr. Jim Livingston serves as lead chaplain to the local chapter of Courage (which goes by the name of Faith in Action in the St. Paul/Minneapolis Archdiocese). Courage purports to help people move beyond “same-sex attraction” by encouraging a life of “interior chastity in union with Christ.” The movement labels itself a “pro-chastity ministry,” and equates chastity with celibacy. Although Courage -- which, along with NARTH, Livingston enthusiastically promotes in his November 8 commentary -- acknowledges that the “inclination of homosexual attractions” is “psychologically understandable,” the group, nevertheless, considers such attractions “objectively disordered” – a view promulgated by the hierarchical church. Courage often substitutes the words “homosexuality” and “gay” with the NARTH-coined phrase, “same-sex attraction disorder” – a term unrecognized by any professional mental health association. Following NARTH’s lead, Courage likens homosexuality to alcoholism, and conducts its “support groups” using the 12-Step format developed by Alcoholics Anonymous. Some members of Courage even consider their “disorder” to be curable, and explain its origin using debunked theories of dominant mothers, distant fathers, and abusive family relations. Livingston’s commentary in The Catholic Spirit is clear evidence that the quackery of NARTH is actively endorsed and encouraged by some within the leadership of the Roman Catholic Church.
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PART II – THE "EX-EX-GAY"
By Michael Bayly
(From The Progressive Catholic Voice, February 2008)
INTRODUCTION
In the February 2008 issue of The Progressive Catholic Voice, Michael Bayly shared the contributions made by John C. Gonsiorek to the CPCSM-sponsored event, “The Myth of ‘Conversion Therapy’ and the Pseudo-Science of NARTH.”
Dr. Gonsiorek was one of two speakers at this program, which took place at the House of the Beloved Disciple in Minneapolis on Tuesday, January 29, and was prompted, in part, by recent efforts on the part of the Archdiocese of St. Paul/Minneapolis to promote the ideology and “scientific findings” of the National Association for Research and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH). The other speaker invited to share his perspective on this issue was Jeffry G. Ford, MA, a licensed psychologist and psychotherapist.
Highlights of John Gonsiorek’s presentation comprised Part I of the two-part Progressive Catholic Voice series, “The Myth of ‘Conversion Therapy’ and the Pseudo Science of NARTH.”
Following is Part II, comprised of highlights of Jeff Ford’s presentation at the House of the Beloved Disciple on January 29.
An expert for both sides of the issue
Perhaps the most interesting aspect of Jeffry Ford’s story is that he was formerly the executive director of OUTPOST, an “ex-gay” ministry located in Minneapolis. For ten years, Jeff claimed to be a “former homosexual,” and was a national speaker for Exodus International, the governing board and communication hub for most ex-gay ministries.
Today, however, Jeff identifies as a gay man and is a nationally known consultant and speaker on gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) issues. Jeff dedicates his time and energy to challenging the unethical and dangerous use of pseudo-scientific theories associated with the ex-gay movement, a movement that includes NARTH. In particular, he addresses the complexities involved with the anti-gay theory and practice known both as “reparative therapy” and “sexual conversion therapy,” which purports to prevent and cure homosexuality.
The story of Jeff’s journey away from the world of “ex-gay” ministry is featured with those of other “ex-gays” in a publication entitled, "Finally Free," complied by the Washington, DC-based Human Rights Campaign.
Learning how to pass
Growing up in a religious home, Jeff responded to his growing awareness that he was attracted to other males by rationalizing that “something had gone wrong” inside of him. He felt shame and a sense of “badness,” and struggled to keep secret his homosexual feelings. Yet his mother could tell that something was going on inside of him. Accordingly, she would have “little talks” with him that invariably started with: “Jeffry, do you know what it is to be a queer?” She also attempted to “butch” him up and would give him examples of what was wrong about being effeminate and queer. She even sent him to a wrangling camp on a ranch in Arizona. Looking back on this experience, Jeff says with a wry smile: “It just didn’t work.”
Nevertheless, by high school, Jeff had “learned how to pass” – learned how to date girls and keep his true desires “under wraps.” In his junior year of high school he became involved with evangelical Christianity, and accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. In this rigid, fundamentalist form of Christianity, Jeff found a way to hope and believe that “something” was going to take his homosexuality away; that somehow God, through Jeff’s personal acceptance of Jesus, was going to heal him and set him free.
He began to sublimate, repress, and deny the homosexual feelings he was experiencing. Despite some “dalliances” involving other men – encounters that he never talked about and felt “incredibly shameful about,” Jeff married at the age of twenty. Yet when neither his evangelical Christian faith nor his heterosexual marriage made his homosexual desires disappear, Jeff sought counseling. The Christian counselor he saw at Bethel College was in his own way, says Jeff, compassionate and caring. In retrospect, however, Jeff can also say that this counselor was misguided in his understanding about homosexuality.
He asked Jeff to undergo “aversion therapy” – a form of electric shock “reparative therapy.” Jeff ended up doing forty sessions of this humiliating type of therapy that left painful scorch marks on his forearms. Even after realizing that this type of therapy had failed to take away his homosexual desires, Jeff continued to pursue anything he could so as not to be gay.
The two biggest lies
At one point during his presentation, Jeff shared the DVD documentary Abomination: Homosexuality and the Ex-Gay Movement
The various testimonies contained in this DVD – from former ex-gays and psychologists – attest to the fact that the ex-gay movement pushes what former ex-gay Daniel Gonzales describes as the two biggest lies that drive people into any form of therapy to either change or repress their sexual orientation and/or its expression. These lies are that: 1) a person cannot live their life as a gay person and be a good Christian, and 2) being gay is not a viable or fulfilling way to live one’s life.
One Catholic ex-gay featured in the documentary notes that often after “conversion therapy” fails, many “faith-based” therapists will say that the only choice you have left is celibacy. They realize that the success rate of changing homosexuals to heterosexuals is “very, very poor.” So they try to take a new approach by saying, “Well, if you can’t change, then be celibate.”
To be sure, the lives of ex-gays all seem to be dominated by hopelessness, guilt, internalized shame, and feelings of defectiveness. More than one commentator in the film noted that the sense of worthlessness that ex-gay ministries foster compels many gay people to take unsafe sexual risks. As one former ex-gay noted: “If you serve a mean God, you become sort of mean also.”
One psychologist in the film offered the following insight: “The repression of sexual desire actually makes the idea of acting them out more titillating, makes a person more likely to think sexual thoughts. For those struggling to suppress their homosexual feelings, this repression actually leads to an increase in the acting out of unsafe sexual behaviors – behaviors that might not occur if they were more accepting of their homosexuality.”
One young man interviewed confirmed this, saying that: “I never really dated anyone – male or female – until I made the choice to accept my sexuality.” That acceptance allowed him to start dating, an experience that he describes as “fantastic.” “I was no longer meeting men in dark places having anonymous sex,” he said, “but actually having a relationship for the first time.”
Breaking free
Of course, for some gay people, getting to the point of having a relationship requires breaking free from an ex-gay ministry of one form or another. Breaking free, however, can be a very protracted and painful experience as it is often within these ministries that many gay people have their family, friends, and their sense of faith and community. Yet despite the pain of being ostracized by family and friends, the vast majority do indeed break free. As one former ex-gay declares: “I’d rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I’m not.”
Yet what of those who claim that conversion therapy has worked for them? According to Jeff Ford, ninety-six percent of such people fall into the first two of three categories, the first of which is comprised of people who, despite claimed success, still struggle with homosexual feelings and/or behaviors. The second category is comprised of those who are single and celibate. Only four percent of those who claim that “reparative” or “conversion” therapy has been successful now consider themselves to be heterosexual. Interestingly, almost all of these people work in the ex-gay counseling field. It would seem that for reparative therapy to be successful, one must quit one’s job and become an ex-gay minister and/or therapist and dedicate one’s life to it.
Jeff noted that in the ex-gay world, the expression of same-sex attraction is never talked about as an act of love. It’s only ever understood and talked about as an incarnation of evil. Furthermore, if you accept the “lie” about the normalcy of homosexuality, then you forfeit your place in heaven.
Jeff’s questioning of this dogma against his inner sense and experience of being loved and accepted by God as a gay man was an experience of “deep grace and forgiveness.” It was a liberating experience for him.
Says Jeff: “The ex-gay movement tends to blame the parents and/or supposed experiences of childhood abuse for changing the direction of one’s natural (i.e., heterosexual) sexual orientation. If your unmet needs can be met in ‘healthy’ ways, i.e., in non-erotic same-sex friendships and relationships, then not only will your unmet needs be met, but your heterosexuality will bloom and blossom. That’s the hope and that’s what they promise. And some people will do almost anything to believe this – from years and years of counseling to prayers and exorcisms.
“The problem,” continues Jeff, “comes when people do all these things and yet continue to experience same-sex attractions. They feel like a failure, yet you’re not supposed to talk about such feelings of failure publicly – only in private with your counselor. There’s a lot of restraint on your personal freedom. The extent of this restraint depends on which ex-gay ministry you’re involved with. Some of them demand that you don’t listen to certain types of music, read certain types of books. You can’t be left alone with another person of the same gender. It’s very cult-like, very controlling.”
Accurate answers, powerful insight
Jeff certainly has a powerful story to share, and he did so eloquently at the House of the Beloved Disciple on January 29. Without doubt, much of this power comes from the fact that Jeff speaks from experience. After all, he studied and practiced reparative therapies for years. Such personal and professional experience, says Jeff, allows him to offer “accurate answers and powerful insight” into the workings and ideological underpinnings of the ex-gay movement.
Also, unlike many so-called “experts” in the pseudo-science of conversion and reparative therapies, Jeff’s writings have been published in peer-reviewed scientific journals. Most recently his article, “Healing Homosexuals: A Psychologist’s Journey Through the Ex-Gay Movement and the Pseudo-Science of Reparative Therapy,” was published in The Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy (Haworth Press, Volume 5, No. 3/4, 2001). It was simultaneously published in the book, Sexual Conversion Therapy.
Jeff also maintains a comprehensive web site entitled Reparative Therapy: A Pseudo Science, that contains a wealth of information, resources, and a detailed account of his “journey through reparative therapy.”
Michael Bayly is an editor of The Progressive Catholic Voice and the executive coordinator of the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities (CPCSM).
Jeffry G. Ford, MA, Licensed Psychologist, was formerly the executive director of OUTPOST, an "ex-gay" ministry located in Minneapolis, MN, and claimed for ten years to be a "former homosexual." For many years he was a national speaker for Exodus International, which remains the governing board and communication hub for most ex-gay ministries.
Today, Jeff is a nationally known consultant and speaker on gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender issues. He specializes in addressing the complexities involved with the anti-gay theory known both as Reparative Therapy and Sexual Conversion Therapy, which purports to prevent and cure homosexuality; and he challenges the dangerous use of pseudo-scientific theories like these and other discredited methods.
Ford speaks from experience as one who studied and practiced reparative therapies for years. Because of his personal and professional experience, Ford is able to offer accurate answers and powerful insight. Although many so called "experts" in the pseudo-science of conversion and reparative therapies self-publish articles filled with false claims and misinformation, his work and experience has been published in peer-reviewed scientific journals.
Most recently his article Healing Homosexuals: A Psychologist's Journey Through the Ex-Gay Movement and the Pseudo-Science of Reparative Therapy was published in The Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, Haworth Press, Volume 5, No. 3/4, 2001. It was simultaneously published in the book Sexual Conversion Therapy Haworth Press, 2002. Copies of the article, journal, and book can be obtained directly from Haworth Press.
Jeff was featured on the nationally syndicated PBS television show In The Life. He has been interviewed for articles appearing in the Star Tribune, the St. Paul Pioneer Press and a variety of newspapers nationally and internationaly as well as Lavender and Genre magazines and numerous other gay and religious publications. Twin Cities television and radio news media frequently turn to him as a consultant on LGBT-related issues. His story, along with the stories of twelve other "ex-ex-gays" is featured in the volume Finally Free compiled by the Washington DC based Human Rights Campaign.
Jeff is a licensed psychologist and psychotherapist, as well as a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist and an Independent Clinical Social Worker. He received his master's degree in psychology in 1983 from St. Mary's University, Winona, MN; and received his undergraduate training from both the University of Northern Colorado, Greeley, CO and Bethel College, Arden Hills, MN.
He is the owner and director of Associated Resources In Psychology, PA in St. Paul, MN where he maintains a private therapy and consulting practice.
John has published widely in the areas of professional misconduct and impaired professionals, sexual orientation and identity, professional ethics, and other areas. He is a fellow of APA Division 9 (also called the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues), and Division 12 (the Society of Clincial Psychology).
Dr. Gonsiorek is a Clinical Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychology, University of Minnesota; and has taught at a number of other institutions in the Twin Cities area. For many years, he provided expert witness evaluation and testimony regarding impaired clergy and professionals, standards of care, and psychological damages; and has provided training and consultation to a variety of religious denominations and organizations.
John is a consulting editor for Professional Psychology: Research & Practice. His major publications include: Breach of trust: Sexual exploitation by health care professionals and clergy; Homosexuality: Research implications for public policy (with Weinrich); Male sexual abuse: A trilogy of intervention strategies (with Bera and Letourneau), and Homosexuality and psychotherapy: A practitioner’s handbook of affirmative models.
For 25 years, Dr. Gonsiorek had an independent practice of clinical and forensic psychology in Minneapolis, and now primarily works as a consultant. He can be reached by phone at 952-994-1386; or e-mail: gonsiorek@comcast.net.
A Personal Story about Ex-Gay Therapy from YouTube
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Other Resources on the Ex-Gay Movement
What is Reparative Therapy?
An Historical Overview
by Jeff Ford
Reparative Therapy: A Pseudo-Science
(Jeff Ford's Website)
John Gonsiorek's Recommended
Resources from the American Psychological Association (APA)
(A .pdf handout, can be downloaded and printed)
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(adapted from the blogsite The Wild Reed)
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Having processed across Summit Avenue, the protesters gather in front of the Chancery as they witness CPCSM's executive director Michael Bayly deposit the open letter to Archbishop Nienstedt into the building's mail slot. |
Over three hundred people gathered at the Cathedral of St. Paul on Sunday afternoon, December 2nd for a vigil of solidarity with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Catholics, their families and supporters. The vigilers gathered in response to an invitation from the Progressive Catholic Voice (PCV), a coalition of Catholic organizations and individuals (of which CPCSM is a founding group) that recently launched a monthly e-newsletter of the same name. The PCV's invitation to gather for the vigil was prompted by Coadjutor Archbishop John Nienstedt's November 15th statement on homosexuality in The Catholic Spirit, the official newspaper of the local archdiocese.
CPCSM's executive director Michael Bayly set the tone for the vigil with his opening statement, welcoming all who had come to show their solidarity.
[It is very] appropriate that we’re gathering on the First Sunday of Advent – that season of the church year that invites us to reflect, renew, listen, discover, and become our truest selves in the light of Christ.
Advent is traditionally understood as a time of waiting. As LGBT Catholics we’re very familiar with waiting. We’ve been waiting for a very long time for the institutional church to recognize and honor the light of Christ present in our lives AND relationships.
For that to happen, the church’s teaching on “homosexual activity” will have to change. And I have no doubt that it will one day change. My prayer is that Archbishop Nienstedt will join us in being a prophetic voice in working to ensure that this change happens sooner rather than later.
I’d like to close by paraphrasing Pope John XXIII: We should not think of ourselves as being fearfully under siege in a fortress-like church, a church that serves as a museum of unchangeable traditions and teachings. Rather, we should embody a living, growing, and evolving church; one that can be envisioned as a flowering garden of life – full of color, diversity, and possibility.
Friends, I look out and see such a church before me. And I thank you again for having the courage and compassion to be that type of church and to stand here today in solidarity with LGBT Catholics and those who encourage and support them.
By gathering at the Cathedral amid wintry winds that brought a sub-zero wind chill, the 300+ protesters were, in effect, showing that they do "encourage and support lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) family members, and friends who accept and express their sexuality," Further, the group was there to express their disagreement with Coadjutor Archbishop John Nienstedt's recent statement indicating that by encouraging and supporting their LGBT family members and friends, they are “cooperating in a grave evil.”
Through the sea of signs that they carried and by enthusiastically responding to the event's speakers with their applause and cheering, the crowd also indicated that they would like to see the Church’s teaching on homosexuality reformed in light of credible science and the lived experiences of LGBT people and their families
One of the key organizers of the vigil, Michael Bayly, shared with his blogsite readers, "I can’t tell you how happy I am with this incredible turn-out – especially considering the severe wintry conditions we’ve been experiencing in the Twin Cities."
Bayly further elaborated, "No doubt [I thought] due to the inclement weather, the crowd was slow to build. As we began the proceedings with the Bret Hesla song, The Image of God, I thought to myself: Well, fifty people isn’t bad for weather like this. Yet as I began my welcome (and for twenty minutes afterwards), the people just kept arriving and the crowd just kept swelling! (At one point, 325 people were counted.)"
In joy! Oh, in joy do we gather!
Knowing we are all the image of God.
Be strong! Oh, be stronger than hatred,
Knowing we are all the image of God.
We stand! Oh, we stand and we celebrate,
Knowing we are all the image of God.
The Image of God, by Bret Hesla
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| Catholic Rainbow Parents co-founder Darlene White, who has a lesbian daughter with two children. |
Speaking on behalf of Catholic Rainbow Parents, convener Mary Lynn Murphy addressed the crowd with her husband, Mike. Responding to the Catholic Church’s contention that homosexuality is a “disorder,” Mary Lynn declared: “Homosexuality is not a disorder of any kind, but rather an ordinary human characteristic with the exact moral dimensions of heterosexuality. This is not, we believe, and never was, a question of ‘sin.’ It is a simple question of human diversity, and society’s ongoing struggle to learn to accept differences of all kinds.”
“As parents, we lift up the voice of our parental authority on this matter, refusing to allow unloving, untrue messages from any entity to undermine our loving families and the human dignity of LGBT persons everywhere - whether they are found in the pews, in the wider society, or - as they frequently are - in the ranks of the clergy and the hierarchy itself.”
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Another inspiring speaker at the Vigil for Solidarity was Dignity Twin Cities president Brian McNeill. |
Also sharing an inspiring message was Ronnie Angelus, longtime peace activist and parishioner at St. Joan of Arc. |
“People are crying today,” said another speaker, 80-year-old Ronnie Angelus. “People are weeping today. A grandfather who loves his granddaughter and her female partner believes he cannot receive communion. And he weeps. Mothers, fathers, relatives, and friends are told they cannot want abundance of life for their gay family members and friends. Young people grappling with their sexuality are scared and they weep. Somewhere, mixed with rage and disbelief, we stand heartbroken today.”
“And the words of Pastor Martin Niemöeller keep coming to my mind: ‘When they came for me there was no one left to speak for me.’ And make no mistake, they are coming for us. The statement of the Archbishop makes it official and it opens the doors for the hate to spill out. Make no mistake. They are coming for us! If ever there was a time to ask for the gifts of the Holy Spirit, for fortitude and wisdom, the moment is now. In these mighty winds of change it is time to say, ‘Come Holy Spirit, come! Come Holy Spirit, come!’”
Above and below: Soulforce founder and author Rev. Mel White received cheers and applause when he declared that those present were the “hope for the Catholic Church.” |
“Throughout history,” Rev. Mel White reminded those vigiling outside the cathedral, “the Catholic church, the Christian church, has been saved by people like you who loved it enough to stand up and say, ‘You’re wrong!’”
Mel White then gave some graphic examples of other heroes for their faith in the history of the Church.
"Giordano Bruno, on the Campo Di Fiori, a Roman Square just outside the Vatican walls, was burned at the stake for confronting Roman Catholic teachings in March of 1600. Then, 400+ years later, John Paul II expressed 'profound sorrow' for the martyrdom.When sentenced, Bruno said tothe bishops, 'You have far more fear in condemning me than I have in being condemned.' "
"Exactly 30 days ago in Linz, Austria, cardinals, bishops and priests gathered to canonize the courgeous layman Franz Jaggerstater who was beheaded by the Nazis in August, 1943. As a young man he had watched with growing horror as the priests in his Austrian diocese, his local bishop, and even the pope had by their silent assent supported Hitler and the Third Reich. Months earlier Franz Jaggerstater had politely refused to be inducted into Hitler’s army after priests, bishops, cardinals, and the pope had advised for 'the sake of your families' not to resist Hitler’s blitzkrieg across Europe. 'We are losing our souls and we don't know it,' Jaggerstatter cried out."
Mel's third story was the following account of a recent "gay martyr." "Beneath the Pope's window, in St. Peter's Square, Alfredo Ormando, a young gay writer, burned himself to death on January 13, 1998, to protest the teachings and actions of the Vatican against God's lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender children."
"There have always been heroes and martyrs who gave their lives for Christ and their faith. If we hope to reach our goal some day, then we, too, must become heroes of the faith," Mel told the crowd. He then concluded his talk by urging the crowd to take over the steps of the Cathedral, which the local archdiocesan authorities had told the vigil's organizers were private property and off-limits for the protesters. "Those are our steps, Mel shouted, "we have a right to occupy them!"
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| Another highlight of the Vigil for Solidarity was the warmth and energy of the wonderful music provided by (l to r) Kathleen Olsen and Larry Dittberner and Mary Preus (not pictured). |
CPCSM co-founder and Progressive Catholic Voice technical editor David McCaffrey, one of the key organizers of the Vigil for Solidarity, made good use of his rich baritone voice throughout proceedings to provide clear and concise explanations and directions to the crowd. |
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One of the most powerful moments of the vigil was the “die-in and rising up” ritual on the front steps of the cathedral. |
As can be see in the photos above, the symbolic "die-in and rising-up" ritual involved the protesters who had gathered on the steps of the Cathedral falling to the ground after David McCaffrey, over the bull-horn, recited Archbishop Nientedt’s recent “life-denying” and "spiritually violent" words regarding homosexuality and then sounded a loud siren. The siren signified the great risk that such a negative statement from a church leader can bring -- risk to the physical, psychological, and spiritual health of LGBT persons and their families.
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Eleven-year-old Joseph Olsen proclaimed Jesus’ “life-giving” words: “I came that you might have life – and have it to the full!" (John 10: 10), to symbolize, as David McCaffrey pointed out to the crowd, "that Jesus’ words of life are meant for us all, LGBT and straight people -- just as the teachings of the Church should bring us all the message of God’s unconditional love and not be a source of misunderstanding, fear, hatred, and disunity." |
After the die-in participants lying on the Cathedral steps heard the life-giving words of Jesus, they were directed to rise up and everyone joyfully began singing “I Shall Walk in the Presence of God” and began a solemn procession across Summit Avenue to the Chancery, where Archbishop Nienstedt's office is located.
I shall walk in the presence of God, I shall walk.
With the sun and the rain upon me, I shall walk.
In the land of the living, living land, I shall walk.
With my sisters and brothers around me, I shall walk.
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After the "die-in and rising-up" ritual, the vigilers processed across Summit Ave. from the Cathedral to the Archbishop's office at the Chancery, where an open letter to him was deposited in the mailbox. |